I’m not at war with White women. My aim is to be helpful to any woman that can be helped by my words.
I asked my readers to address the problem of men and women not getting together because of women being slutty and not wanting to devote their lives to someone like that and Softer Side of the Movement gave me an answer.
I’m going to address some of the points she made in coming blog posts. I will bold my answers. I am also addressing WOMEN here for two reasons. 1. I don’t believe in preaching to men. Men should preach to men. That’s a value of mine and I’m not going to debate it at this time. 2. WN women (in general) and their feminist allies are fond of telling men how they need to change but seem to lack any self-awareness. They seem unaware that many of the things they do contribute to their own unhappiness, that of those around them and how they tear down their homes with their own hands (so to speak). I think this needs to change and it starts with me, even though it is an uncomfortable position to take. And ladies, if you and your home are happy, then this doesn’t apply to you. Maybe it applies to someone you know and you can pass along the information.
“values they need to return white men and woman aren’t getting together because they weren’t taught the proper moral values”. I agree wholeheartedly. AND the values must be taught by men and women who HAVE good values. If something is truly a value of yours, you adhere to it no matter what the rest of the world is doing.
For instance, it’s not a good idea to use the promiscuous behavior of men to excuse your own promiscuity.
Why? Because promiscuity can lead to a woman having a lot of baggage. A woman who has a half-dozen or more relationships before she’s out of her teens has gone through a number of mini-divorces. She’s felt the pain of rejection, regret, loss, in many cases angry, unkind words, sometimes even physical abuse over an over again.
If you value yourself and your future self, you are careful about who you spend time with and you don’t give yourself physically or emotionally to men who don’t share your values. It may mean many lonely years but you can spend those years being productive, making friends (friends with values), contributing to your family, friends, neighborhood (if it’s White) and your race.
I know a woman who did that. She’s pretty (I’ve never met an ugly White woman, if they’re ugly, they are probably mixed) but she didn’t chase boys/men like some of her acquaintances did. So she didn’t date at all really. At times she felt impatient because at first it seemed like her friends were having a lot of fun…then she saw the breakups and the subsequent tears, fetal positions, depression, eating disorders, anti-depressant use and so on that followed. She didn’t want any part of that. She hung in there and stayed busy.
Later she reconnected through friends with a young man she’d met in High School. He was/is a high value man. He’s from a good family with a stay at home mom and a high earning father. A LOT of women wanted to be with him but he chose my woman friend over all the women that were throwing themselves at him. He wanted the same things she wanted…namely, a family. So after a long engagement while he finished his schooling, they were married. He was worth the wait.
Even if it hadn’t worked out and my friend had never gotten married, wouldn’t it have been better for her to have stayed “alone” with her busy happy life than to have gone through the tears, fetal positions, depression, eating disorders and anti-depressant use routine? How many years can a woman do this and not go a little insane?
Another reason not to to be promiscuous? High quality men don’t want to be with a woman everyone has been with. Sorry, that’s the way god or nature wired them. Some say it stems back to when there was no birth control or DNA tests. If you’re with a woman of loose morals, you might just end up raising another man’s child. No smart, self-respecting man wanted to do that. And today, no smart, self-respecting man really wants that. In fact, if they somehow settle for that kind of woman, they have a hard time trusting her to be loyal. This leads to major problems and is probably part of the reason the divorce rate is so high. Think about it!
Again, if this doesn’t apply to you, then fine, you have nothing to learn but perhaps, there may be help here for someone you know.
Also, I have not lived a perfect life. I too was a feminist, although I didn’t know it at the time. I am fortunate that I figured things out (to some extent) before it was too late for me to have children with a good man. I still have a lot to learn though. There are still roots of feminism in me. I pull them up like weeds but then some more appear.
My point is, I speak from experience and from observing life for a few decades.
Some other values I will discuss on my blog:
Careerism vs Motherhood
Raising Your Own Children
and whatever else I think of. Then I will move on to another of Softer Side’s points.
Leave a comment if you want but don’t feel hurt if I can’t address everything you say or ask about because I need to stay on track with answering SS’s first points and there’s only so much time in a day. If you hang in there with me, you might get the answer you’re looking for.
I wish you lots of peace and love sisters. I mean that with all my heart!