(Please excuse the hyperlinks or underline words in this post—I don’t have time to figure out how to get rid of them.)
I have recently come to know two good White young men in their mid-twenties. They give me hope for our future.
The first is the son of a good friend of mine. His mother found herself raising him on her own. When he was very young she tried to get him into a certain private school and was told he was not a good fit for the school. Her son asked his mother if she would home school him . My friend was no longer married and was receiving virtually no financial help with her son. She had eschewed government help and was working long, long hours to support the two of them. Besides a regular job (or sometimes two) she had a side business as part of a MLM company. She had done pretty well with it as a side business and when her son asked if she would home school him, she took a leap of faith, quit her 9-5(ish) job and began home-schooling him while working with the MLM company. It wasn’t easy. She cut a LOT of coupons and still does, to this day. They did not own a television so he did a lot of reading. Was he properly socialized? I’m glad you asked. He socialized with friends from church, he played sports (a little) and he was very active in the Boy Scouts. In fact the Boy Scouts is where he built a lot of social capital* which as we know will become more and more important in the coming years. He was an enthusiastic Scout. He had a natural aptitude for selling (he took after his mother this way) so whenever there was a selling project, he worked very hard and sold like crazy, winning prizes and so on. He also, in earning his Eagle Scout badge, built a structure that required a high level of construction skill. I think a lot of adults would have had trouble with it! More importantly, he built relationships. His mother had raised him well so he was the young man other parents wanted their boys to spend time with. There were many camping trips and activities where he built lasting friendships with other young men and their parents.
By the time this young man was 18 years old, he was no mama’s boy. He moved out on his own, working 3 jobs in order to do so. He figured out pretty quickly that working 3 jobs forever wasn’t sustainable though so he decided to go to college. He knew this would be difficult while trying to support himself but he was determined to do it anyway.
Lo and behold, a friend’s father (and his former Scoutmaster) offered to allow this young man to live in his home while he went to school. Although the young man still works while attending college, many of his basic needs are met by this gentleman (a doctor) and another Scoutmaster. He has even allowed my friend’s son to use a (beautiful) car of his and insures it for him. Recently one of the families even took him on a trip with them to Hawaii. Honestly, if I didn’t see this with my own eyes I wouldn’t have believed it! It’s all true though and I’m so glad. You see, these Scoutmaster fathers thins the world of this young man and feels he is and has been a good influence on their own sons. There ARE good young White people out there and there ARE good parents.
*Dictionary.com defines social capital as:
The network of social connections that exist between people, and their shared values and norms of behavior, which enable and encourage mutually advantageous social cooperation
If you are unclear about what social capital is, think Amish. The members of their communities have a lot of social capital.